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I think you may find that that type of plug short circuits the microphone input. Try a normal 3.5mm plug instead.
try a headset you would use with mobile phone - they usually are included with the phone
Thanks for the suggestion, but the headset I am trying to use works with my mobile phone and my laptop but not with my BT4600 phones.